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For me, understanding attachment theory changed everything; it gave language to experiences I had carried for decades without understanding. It helped me stop viewing myself as broken and start viewing myself as programmed, and there is a very important distinction between those two things. Broken implies something is wrong with you. Programmed implies something happened to you. Once you understand the programming, you finally have a chance to rewrite it.

Because choosing yourself doesn’t suddenly make you immune to guilt. If anything, it amplifies it.

And for the first time…I didn’t listen. Not because I was confident. Not because I had it all figured out. But because something in me finally trusted that voice more than the noise.

One can reflect and acknowledge what happened to them, but if they are not able to at least speak to someone about it, then, in my opinion, they are still sitting in the shame, guilt, and secrecy of the event or events. Speak up, find your truth, and set yourself free from the abuse or pain that chains you.